In as personal and intimate a relationship as is any form of D/s (by which we mean any relationship where one person willingly gives some measure of authority to another, whether you think of it as S&M, Dom/me and sub, or Daddy and Innergirl, etc.), there often are very special attentions which the Top pays to the Bottom, be it a punishment session, medical examination, pleasuring, or various sorts of very personal "training".

We use the term "tending" to encompass all manner of these sorts of attentions, as the feelings and headspaces elicited by them are often quite similar.